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How to Handle Fear

When we stand at the threshold of something new we have a broad sense of anticipation. This feeling has many interpretations depending on what you perceive as the outcome, anxious, nervous, excited, or even the blended nervous-excitement. Knowing that there is a correlation between these feelings we can change them easier than you think.

Looking Over the Edge at 14,000 Feet

When not changing the world at Interact I like to jump out of reasonably serviceable airplanes (since there are no perfectly good airplanes.) Every time I get ready to jump I have a nervous tick run through me. On the slow ride to altitude, I prepare myself, triple check my gear, and I still have a nervous tick through me. Twelve years into the sport and hundreds of jumps in, I still have these feelings. They are good feelings. They keep you sharp. They keep you safe. However, to let them dominate you will rob you of great moments in life.

Nervousness is Excitement Without the Breathing

Early on one of my instructors taught me that being nervous was the same as being excited just without the breathing. The same neural pathway is used for both. If they are this closely aligned, then you can change the way it is perceived. You have more control over the situation than you give yourself credit. Let’s look at how we can do that.


First, smile. We elicit a psychosomatic response by smiling. The act automatically begins to trigger a happier, more relaxed moment. Now when I say smile, I don’t mean to only force a smile but S-M-I-L-E. Feel it!

You know what a big cheesy grin does in the moment, pull that to you. There are all sorts of great reasons to smile. New studies are showing us how it helps create positive-loops in the brain, aids in overall contentment, and help rid ourselves of stress. So, cheese!

Golden Retriever - Smile


Now that you’ve got that big grin; take a big breath! When you begin to feel nerves, you shorten your breathing. Which in turn will ratchet up our internal fight or flight response. We don’t want to create an anxious moment. We want excitement. An adrenaline charge into a fearful moment is not the direction you want to be heading. What we want is to pull the bodies natural endorphins out to give you elation.

Take a breath. Hold it. Release slowly, and do it again. Feel how the body wants to lift, rise, and engage in the great moment to come.


Just that alone would feel good on any day of the week but let’s add to it. Reach down into yourself and laugh. Not a nervous teeter, but dig into the diaphragm and pull a big belly chuckle out.

Laughter raises our blood pressure, increases circulation, and pushes blood back out into the extremities (cold hands or feet? Laugh them away!) Wa-hooo a bit if you have it in you. Let’s flip this nervous coin on the other side. We are breathing, smiling, even laughing a bit.

Now, you are anticipating a great moment. You’re smiling, positivity forward, mind in the right gear. Now let’s jump! Or walk on that stage, or get up out of the chair in the boardroom, or… It works everywhere. Not only that but by pulling these great moments into yourself you will charge those around you with a sympathetic response. Pull everyone along the happy train.

Take Heart

Life is full of precious moments. Fear will rob your future of them if you let it. When you find yourself beginning to fret about an upcoming moment, remember these steps. Take that nervous energy and turn it into an energetic, positive one. You will feel more liberated, and a great outcome will follow.

Life has given you great moments worth exploring and telling. If you are ready to tell yours get in touch with us today.

Andy Ciordia

Andy Ciordia is a jack-of-all-trades. He is Interact's marketing director, web developer, technology expert and multi-level designer and dreamer. Andy’s background covers running creative departments through internal systems and security. Read more about Andy here.