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Quick Tips: Conversation Charisma

This is the third in a three-part series on natural presence and charisma, which are not reserved for the lucky few with a special gene.  They are the result of self-awareness, emotional intelligence and the discipline of practice. Give team members appreciation but do more than pass out “atta-boys.”  Be specific about their contribution by saying, “Here’s Read more

5 Essentials for Presence and Charisma

Natural presence and charisma are not reserved for the lucky few with a special gene.  They are the result of self-awareness, emotional intelligence and the discipline of practice. Build your physical confidence.  Presence cannot happen amid restless shifting, fidgeting and pacing.  Presence requires a degree of intentionality and owning your space.  If you haven’t developed the habit of standing tall and Read more

Resist Gift Urgency

When an over-polished, unsigned holiday card with a computerized address label arrives in the mail, it’s a let down. When one of those glitzy cookie towers is delivered at your door, you know from past experience that most of it will go uneaten, so you begin to think of re-gifting. When someone pops a coffee mug filled Read more

Trust: A Performance Multiplier

Research has given us overwhelming evidence that when trust is high within a team and organization, the dividend is a performance multiplier. Trust is a catalyst through which employees offer ideas, use each other as resources, and learn together. Without trust people assume self-protective, defensive postures that inhibit learning and performance. A. K. Mishra defines Read more

It’s About People

Human beings are courageous and resilient.  We can deal with almost anything as long as we do not become disconnected from other human beings.  There is mounting research that proves we need and thrive in positive, human interaction.  Research from more than half a century ago found that a lack of human interaction can damage Read more

How Do You Rate On Showing Up?

According to Woody Allen, 85% of success in life is about showing up. Rate yourself from 1 to 5 (1 being lowest) on the following tenets of Showing Up. 1.  Getting face-to-face for important conversations. 2.  Practicing committed listening. 3.  Living life intentionally, fully awake and aware of the moments in which you connect with others. Read more

A Voice All Her Own

by Lou Solomon, dated April 26, 2012 Humans are not the only ones with something unique to say.  I just got back from the Bahamas, where I made a friend named Sasha, a bottlenose dolphin rescued from an aquarium damaged by Hurricane Katrina. Sasha’s trainer Gary cued her several times to make her signature whistle.  It Read more

Learn Something New

  “The best thing for being sad is to learn something.  That is the only thing that never fails, the only thing the mind can never exhaust, never alienate, never be tortured by, never fear or distrust and never dream of regretting.”  –Merlin to Author in The Once and Future King by T.H. White Learning something Read more

Storms are Stories

by Lou Solomon, dated August 29, 2011 Watching the coverage of Irene stomping up the East Coast this past weekend, I noticed several interviews with locals and old-timers who told stories about all the storms they had survived.  They began talking about Irene—but inevitably they slipped into stories about the others:   Floyd, Bertha, Fran, Bonnie, Hanna Read more

Audit Yourself

 If you want to impact your business in a meaningful way, all you need is a willingness to hear feedback. Ask the people on your team the following questions: 1) If you could change one thing about the communication within our team, what would it be? 2) Do you feel you have enough opportunity to Read more

Forgiveness at Pearl Harbor

by Lou Solomon, dated Monday, May 30, 2011 My friend Eddie Link is a storyteller and a passionate historian.   He told me this story about a 74-year-old veteran, a 7-year-old little girl and forgiveness at Pearl Harbor. In 1994 Link decided to take his entire family—his wife and three sons—to Hawaii.  When he began the initial Read more

Do Your Own Material

by Lou Solomon, dated May 2, 2011 Billy Crystal got his start as a stand-up comic doing very good impersonations of people like Muhammad Ali and sportscaster Howard Cosell. One night in the summer of 1974, Crystal was performing at Catch a Rising Star in New York.  Jack Rollins, one of the most sought-after managers Read more

Advice from Alan Jackson

by Lou Solomon, dated April 6, 2011 There is a picture of me and Alan Jackson in my office.  He has a big smile on his face and I look rather sheepish. I met Alan in the late ’80’s, when he was just a lanky young man from Georgia working in the mail room at The Read more

Big Lie

by Lou Solomon, dated February 8, 2011 Deep within the experience of being human is the fear of not being good enough.  If we have the misfortune of being labeled as inferior in any way, we can take it as proof and run with it for years, never suspecting it’s all a big lie. I Read more

Faulty Mind-Reading

by Lou Solomon dated January 11, 2011 Mind-reading is the human practice of inferring the intentions of others.  We can actually get pretty good at this in our personal relationships. We take in all the non-verbal clues along with everything we know about a person, and mind-read.  We know when something is wrong with a Read more

How Do You Become Interesting?

You cannot be uninteresting–and be a leader.  An expert, perhaps.  A leader, no.  How do you become interesting?  Follow the morsels of life that are meaningful to you–your own interests–and reach people through your own engagement: How history was written versus what really happened Unique family stories Lines from your favorite authors Lyrics from your favorite singer Historical Read more